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My Mental Health Disabilities Don’t Make My Experience of Sexual Assault Less Worthy of Belief

It was approximately seven years ago when I first told my partner I was sexually assaulted by my best friend eight years prior to entering college. Despite the length of time since it happened and the memories being recovered only
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We Need to Break Through the Silence on Abuses of Institutionalized Children

Content note: this post discusses psychiatric hospitalization and sexual abuse. When I was thirteen years old, I was sexually abused by a staff member in a psychiatric hospital. The first time she abused me, she took me into the examination…
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Don’t Use “Functioning Labels” to Victim-Blame Me

Content note: this post discusses sexual abuse and rape. When people find out that I survived a rape and my assailant was a woman, their tone often immediately shifts from sympathy to disbelief or confusion: “How could a woman rape
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Disabled People Can Sexually Harass and Assault People, Too

There are many reasons as to why women who have experienced sexual harassment or abuse do not come forward straightaway, including the fear of not being believed. Such disbelief often stems from the perpetrator not matching stereotypes of the sort…
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When Do I Get to Say “Me, Too?”

I love the word “disabled” because it speaks to the heart of the matter: my ability to move freely through life is hampered. As an “invisibly” disabled, white-passing, biracial, queer femme, I wear my privileges like armor. Pretty masks queer.…
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Disabled People are Missing from Conversations on Campus Sexual Assault

Last month, the National Council on Disability released “Not on the Radar,” a comprehensive report about campus sexual assault and the disability community. It reveals extensive failures on this issue, from accessibility barriers at rape crisis services to…
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Stop Blaming My Sexual Assault On My Disability

To some people, I am their example of an outspoken survivor. I have been called courageous, brave, everything in between. I have spoken at the United Nations and was a delegate at the World Health Organization’s 8th milestones meeting on…
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Is Strip-Searching a Form of Sexual Abuse?

This blog post is part of a series in partnership with the Disability Visibility Project® to bring attention to the omission of disability from larger conversations taking place within the #MeToo Movement. Trigger warning: this post discusses institutionalization and sexual…
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We Cannot Ignore the Connection Between Disability and Intimate Partner Abuse

This blog post is part of a series in partnership with the Disability Visibility Project® to bring attention to the omission of disability from larger conversations taking place within the #MeToo Movement. Trigger warning: this post discusses abuse, violence, and…