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Why BDSM is a Healing Practice for My Mental Health

Tighter. Please. Keep my mind still. Help my mind stay in this body. I pray to anyone who will listen. Winding, twisting, knotting, allowing myself to be tied into place. Tying the knots so tight my mind will not stray
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Sex Education is for Everyone. Even Disabled Kids.

We live in a society that desexualizes disabled bodies. This allows the topics of sex and sexuality to be left out of the educations of many young disabled people. As disabled students head back into the classroom this year, this…
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Asexual Disabled People Exist, But Don’t Make Assumptions About Us

“How do you have sex?” “Are you even interested in dating?” “Do you have any feeling ‘down there’?” These are common questions that people with a range of disabilities, from Down syndrome to autism to paraplegia to cerebral palsy, will
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How Life-Sustaining Medical Care Can Trigger Memories of Sexual Violence

This blog post is part of a series in partnership with the Disability Visibility Project® to bring attention to the omission of disability from larger conversations taking place within the #MeToo Movement. Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual abuse, rape,…
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We Cannot Ignore the Connection Between Disability and Intimate Partner Abuse

This blog post is part of a series in partnership with the Disability Visibility Project® to bring attention to the omission of disability from larger conversations taking place within the #MeToo Movement. Trigger warning: this post discusses abuse, violence, and…

Dating and Disability: Navigating Life Together in an Unaccommodating World

When I was picking out my first cane almost two years ago, my partner did all the right things—she showed up and listened to me. She helped me work through some of the internalized ableism I had about using a…
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Disabled People Have the Right to Live Happily Ever After

“The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men.” – Chief Justice Earl Warren, Loving v. Virginia, 388 U.S. 1 (1967) While…