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Asexual Disabled People Exist, But Don’t Make Assumptions About Us

“How do you have sex?” “Are you even interested in dating?” “Do you have any feeling ‘down there’?” These are common questions that people with a range of disabilities, from Down syndrome to autism to paraplegia to cerebral palsy, will
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Stop Telling Chronic Pain Patients That We Should Just Accept Our Pain

The “pain acceptance” movement has begun to gain traction in the wake of deaths from the opioid epidemic—at its most basic, pain acceptance counsels that people in chronic pain should accept that they will always be in some level of…
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It’s Time to Stop Ignoring the Intersections of Marginalized Identities

Intersectionality, according Kimberlé Crenshaw who coined the term, “is a lens through which you can see where power comes and collides, where it interlocks and intersects.” It has also been defined as “a framework designed to explore
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May is Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Awareness Month. Here’s What You Should Know.

When I tell people I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), they usually give me a blank stare or reply, “What does that mean?” Answering doesn’t clear up any of their questions, and it actually creates more: How did I get EDS?…
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First Doctors Told Me My Pain Was All In My Head, Then They Told Me I Would Die

My disability requires me to carry memory foam pillows with me everywhere I go.  My disability is invisible — the pillows are not. At a recent cardiology appointment, a nurse made fun of my memory foam pillows, assuming I was…
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Don’t Use “Functioning Labels” to Victim-Blame Me

Content note: this post discusses sexual abuse and rape. When people find out that I survived a rape and my assailant was a woman, their tone often immediately shifts from sympathy to disbelief or confusion: “How could a woman rape
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Disabled People Can Sexually Harass and Assault People, Too

There are many reasons as to why women who have experienced sexual harassment or abuse do not come forward straightaway, including the fear of not being believed. Such disbelief often stems from the perpetrator not matching stereotypes of the sort…
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What’s the Point of Trigger Warnings?

Trigger warnings are an incredibly contentious subject, from op-eds insisting that they’re ruining higher education to complaints that they’re wildly overused to a high profile author mocking them in the title of a book. But the conversation about trigger warnings…
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I Needed My Caregiver to Keep Me Alive. She Exploited That Power.

Content note: this post discusses the concept of caregiver abuse. I have a fear of becoming a statistic. I made it through four years of college without being 1 in 3 disabled women sexually assaulted on college campuses, a number…